Do Not Turn... - Acts 13:42-52

Sermon Resources

In this powerful message, we're challenged to confront the destructive forces of jealousy and envy in our hearts. Using the story of King David and Saul from the Old Testament, we see how unchecked jealousy can lead to devastating consequences. The key spiritual lesson here is the importance of trusting God's timing and sovereignty, even when faced with unfair circumstances or personal struggles. Despite having the opportunity, David's refusal to harm Saul showcases a profound respect for God's authority and a willingness to wait for His justice. This narrative invites us to examine our own hearts and ask: Are we truly trusting God in all aspects of our lives, or are we allowing jealousy to take root? The message encourages us to keep pressing forward in our faith journey, not turning back or allowing bitterness to grow, but instead seeking God's transformative power to replace our hearts with His.
Chapters
Chapter 1: The Nature of Jealousy and Envy
0:00 - 6:00
Introduction to jealousy and envy and their impact on our spiritual lives.
Chapter 2: David's Example of Trust and Forgiveness
6:00 - 12:00
Examination of King David's life as an example of trusting God and overcoming jealousy.
Chapter 3: The Heart of the Matter
12:00 - 18:00
Discussion on the importance of addressing heart issues and seeking God's transformation.
Chapter 4: Seeking God's Heart
18:00 - 24:00
Call to seek after God's own heart and allow Him to transform us entirely.

Title: Overcoming Jealousy and Envy: Don't Turn Back, Turn Green, or Turn Hollow
Sermon Summary: This sermon explores the themes of jealousy and envy, using King David's life as a primary example. The pastor emphasizes the importance of continually pursuing God even when faced with negative emotions, trusting in God's timing and ways, and seeking transformation through the Holy Spirit. The sermon distinguishes between jealousy and envy, highlighting the dangers of allowing these feelings to fester and the importance of surrendering to God for actual heart change.
Key Points:
  • Don't turn back when facing jealousy or envy; keep pursuing God
  • Don't turn "green" by allowing jealousy to grow unchecked
  • Don't turn hollow, but receive the Holy Spirit and surrender to God's timing
  • Distinguish between the logos (written word) and Rhema (living word) of God
  • Seek a complete heart transplant from God, not just minor improvements
  • Trust God in all circumstances, even when it's difficult
Scripture Reference:
  • Acts 13:22, 35, 46
  • Romans 12:18-21
  • Psalms 51
Stories:
  • The pastor's personal experience with unexpected jealousy after ending a relationship
  • King David's experiences with King Saul, including sparing Saul's life in the cave
  • An anecdote about a father teaching his son about trustworthiness with money vs. M&Ms
  • The pastor's recent late-night spiritual struggle and breakthrough
  • The analogy of "I could have had a V8" commercial to illustrate the difference between logos and rhema revelations

Here are the scripture references mentioned or alluded to in the sermon, along with some relevant verses for the main themes discussed:
  1. Matthew 6:12 (Lord's Prayer - forgiveness)
  2. Psalm 51 (David's prayer of repentance)
  3. Acts 13:22
  4. Acts 13:35
  5. Romans 12:18-21
  6. Romans 13:1-2
  7. Romans 8:26-28
  8. Acts 13:46
  9. Exodus 20:17 (Tenth Commandment - coveting)
  10. Matthew 5:21-22 (Jesus on anger and murder)
  11. Acts 13:48-52
  12. Hebrews 4:12 (Word of God sharper than a sword)
  13. 2 Corinthians 7:10 (Godly sorrow vs. worldly sorrow)
  14. Acts 13:27
  15. Psalm 23
  16. Acts 13:22 (repeated)
Themes and relevant verses not explicitly mentioned:
  1. Jealousy and Envy:
    • Proverbs 14:30
    • James 3:14-16
    • Galatians 5:19-21
  2. Trusting God:
    • Proverbs 3:5-6
    • Psalm 37:3-5
    • Jeremiah 17:7-8
  3. Heart Transformation:
    • Ezekiel 36:26-27
    • 2 Corinthians 5:17
    • Philippians 1:6
  4. Pursuing God:
    • Jeremiah 29:13
    • Matthew 6:33
    • Hebrews 11:6
  5. Holy Spirit's work:
    • John 14:26
    • Romans 8:14
    • Galatians 5:22-23

David is illustrating a life of trusting God in all things. Because if we can't trust God here, what makes us think we can trust God in the life to come? This life is a test for eternity.
Don't turn around, when we feel these things in our hearts, don't turn back, keep pursuing God, don't be shamed by it, don't be condemned by it, but go to God who understands, who knows it's there.
When we have these things of don't turn around, when we feel these things in our hearts, don't turn back, keep pursuing God, don't be shamed by it, don't be condemned by it, but go to God who understands, who knows it's there.
It's not just knowing the scriptures, but it's asking God's Holy Spirit to supernaturally do heart surgery on us. Not bypass. Not putting in a stent. Not heart valve replacement. Not an aneurysm repair. But a complete total replacement. A transplant. His heart for mine.
I have found David, a man after my own heart. He will do everything that I want Him to do. Because he's after my heart, he may not in that moment, but that's what he's after.
Jealousy, you're jealous of something that someone has. That may not be a bad thing. You may be jealous of a job they have or an education they have or whatever, and it motivates you to get down to it, right, and work towards that kind of thing. So jealousy in itself is not bad.
Envy is not when you want something that somebody else has, but envy is when you want damage or loss to come to that person who has what you want. Not just that they don't get it, not that you just don't want it, but they don't get it either. That's envy.

Discipleship
Discussion Questions
How can we distinguish between healthy jealousy that motivates us and destructive envy? What steps can we take to address envy when we recognize it in ourselves?
King David is described as 'a man after God's own heart.' What does this mean to you, and how can we cultivate a heart that seeks after God's will?
The sermon mentions the concept of 'crazy eights' - painful spiritual revelations. Can you recall a time when you experienced a difficult but transformative spiritual insight?
How does the idea of God performing 'heart surgery' or a 'heart transplant' on us relate to our spiritual growth and transformation?
The sermon discusses the difference between the 'logos' (written word) and 'rhema' (living word) of God. How do you experience these different aspects of God's word in your own life?
David chose not to harm Saul despite having the opportunity. How can we apply this example of respecting authority and trusting God's timing in our own lives?
The sermon emphasizes not turning back when facing spiritual challenges. How can we maintain forward momentum in our faith journey, even when confronted with difficult emotions or past issues?
What role does community play in our spiritual growth, especially when dealing with personal struggles like jealousy or past traumas?
How does the concept of this earthly life being a 'test for eternity' impact your perspective on daily challenges and choices?
The sermon touches on the tension between human free will and God's sovereignty. How do you reconcile these concepts in your understanding of faith and life?

Small Group Guide: "Do Not Turn: Overcoming Jealousy and Envy"
Opening Prayer: Begin with a prayer asking God to open hearts and minds to His Word and to guide the discussion.
Key Takeaways:
  1. Jealousy and envy can unexpectedly arise in our hearts, even when we think we've moved past certain situations.
  2. There's a distinction between jealousy (wanting what others have) and envy (wanting others to lose what they have).
  3. King David is presented as an example of someone who trusted God's timing and ways, even in difficult circumstances.
  4. We are called to keep pursuing God and not turn back when we face struggles with jealousy or envy.
  5. The ultimate goal is to have God's heart replace our own, becoming people "after God's own heart."
Discussion Questions:
  1. The pastor shared a personal story about experiencing unexpected jealousy. Can you recall a time when you were surprised by feelings of jealousy or envy? How did you handle it?
  2. How do you understand the difference between jealousy and envy? Why do you think envy is specifically cautioned against in the Ten Commandments?
  3. The sermon mentions King David's respect for Saul's authority, even when Saul was pursuing him. How can we apply this principle of respecting authority in our lives today, especially when we disagree with those in power?
  4. What does it mean to you to be a person "after God's own heart"? How can we cultivate this in our daily lives?
  5. The pastor talks about the difference between the "logos" (written word) and "rhema" (living word) of God. How have you experienced these in your own spiritual journey?
  6. How does the idea of God wanting to do a complete "heart transplant" in us challenge or encourage you?
Practical Applications:
  1. This week, when you notice feelings of jealousy or envy arising, practice immediately turning to God in prayer about those feelings.
  2. Reflect on an area of your life where you're struggling to trust God's timing. Write down ways you can actively choose to trust Him in this situation.
  3. Choose a Psalm of David to meditate on each day this week, focusing on how David pursued God's heart.
  4. Practice vulnerability with a trusted friend or group member about an area where you're seeking God's transformation in your life.
  5. Identify one practical way you can show respect to an authority figure in your life, even if you disagree with them.
Closing Prayer: End the session by praying for each other, asking God to help each person pursue His heart and overcome struggles with jealousy and envy.
Devotional
Day 1: Confronting Jealousy with God's Love Reading: 1 Samuel 18:5-16 Devotional: King Saul's jealousy of David reminds us how destructive this emotion can be. Jealousy often stems from insecurity and fear, leading us away from God's love. Today, reflect on areas where jealousy might be creeping into your heart. Ask God to replace those feelings with His perfect love and security. Remember, your worth is not determined by comparison to others, but by God's unwavering love for you. How can you cultivate gratitude for God's unique blessings in your life today?
Day 2: Trusting God's Timing Reading: Psalm 27:1-14 Devotional: David's patience in waiting for God's timing, even when his life was threatened, is a powerful example of faith. In our fast-paced world, waiting on God can be challenging. Yet, like David, we're called to trust God's perfect timing. Reflect on areas in your life where you're struggling to wait on God. How might your perspective change if you viewed these situations through the lens of God's sovereignty? Today, practice surrendering your timeline to God, finding peace in His promise to act at the right moment.
Day 3: The Power of Forgiveness Reading: Matthew 6:9-15 Devotional: Jesus teaches that our forgiveness is intricately linked to how we forgive others. This challenging truth invites us to examine our hearts. Are there people you're struggling to forgive? Remember, forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting or excusing harmful behavior, but it does mean releasing the burden of bitterness. Pray for God's grace to help you forgive as you've been forgiven. How might your relationships change if you approached them with a spirit of forgiveness?
Day 4: Embracing God's Heart Reading: Ezekiel 36:26-27 Devotional: God's promise to give us a new heart echoes the sermon's call for a "total transplant" of God's heart for ours. This transformation isn't just about behavior modification, but a complete change of our inner being. Reflect on areas where you've seen God changing your heart. Where do you still need His transformative work? Invite the Holy Spirit to continue this process, making you more like Christ each day. How can you cooperate with God's work in your life today?
Day 5: Finding Joy in Persecution Reading: Acts 13:49-52 Devotional: Despite facing persecution, the disciples were "filled with joy and with the Holy Spirit." This supernatural response challenges our natural inclinations. When we face opposition or difficulties because of our faith, our first response is often discouragement or fear. Yet, the early Christians found joy in these moments. Reflect on challenges you're facing. How might viewing them through the lens of God's purposes change your perspective? Ask God for the strength to find joy even in difficult circumstances, trusting that He is working all things for good.

Weekly Blog

Confronting the Green-Eyed Monster: A Journey of Faith and Transformation
Have you ever felt that sudden pang of jealousy or envy creep into your heart, seemingly out of nowhere? Perhaps you thought you were over a situation, only to find those feelings resurface unexpectedly. It's a common human experience, one that even the most faithful among us grapple with. But how do we address these emotions in a way that aligns with our spiritual journey?
The story of King David provides a powerful illustration of this struggle and the path to overcoming it. Despite being described as "a man after God's own heart," David was no stranger to human failings. His life was a tapestry of triumphs and tribulations, marked by moments of great faith and devastating mistakes.
Consider the contrast between David and King Saul. While both were chosen by God to lead, their responses to jealousy couldn't have been more different. Saul, consumed by envy of David's growing popularity, spent years pursuing him with murderous intent. David, on the other hand, had multiple opportunities to take Saul's life but chose mercy instead, respecting God's anointed even in the face of persecution.
This brings us to an important distinction: jealousy versus envy. Jealousy, in itself, isn't necessarily sinful. It can motivate us to pursue positive goals. Envy, however, is darker. It's not just wanting what someone else has; it's desiring harm or loss to come to that person. It's this envy that the Bible warns against, particularly in the Tenth Commandment's prohibition against coveting.
So how do we confront these feelings when they arise? The message is clear: Don't turn back, don't turn green, and don't turn hollow.
  1. Don't Turn Back: When we recognize jealousy or envy in our hearts, our instinct might be to suppress it or pretend it doesn't exist. But this approach only allows these feelings to fester. Instead, we're called to keep moving forward, pursuing God even in our struggles. Like David, who continually sought God's forgiveness and guidance, we must press on in our spiritual journey, bringing our raw emotions before the Lord.
  2. Don't Turn Green: If left unchecked, jealousy can grow into a monstrous envy that consumes us. It's not enough to simply acknowledge these feelings; we must actively work to overcome them through prayer, reflection, and seeking God's perspective. Remember the words of Romans 12:21, "Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."
  3. Don't Turn Hollow: The antidote to envy is not emptiness, but fullness in Christ. We're called to receive the Holy Spirit, to believe and ask for faith to believe. It's about surrendering to God's timing and ways, even when they don't align with our own desires or expectations.
This journey of transformation isn't always comfortable. Often, it feels more like a "crazy eight" than a smooth "V8" moment. It can involve wrestling with God through sleepless nights, facing deep-seated fears, and humbling ourselves to ask for help from others. But it's through this process that true spiritual growth occurs.
The Apostle Paul's experiences in Antioch of Pisidia illustrate this challenging path. When faced with jealousy and opposition from religious leaders, Paul and Barnabas didn't retreat. Instead, they recognized it as a sign to expand their ministry to the Gentiles. They shook the dust off their feet and moved forward, "filled with joy and with the Holy Spirit" (Acts 13:52).
This brings us to the heart of the matter: What does it truly mean to be "a person after God's own heart"? It's not about perfection or never experiencing negative emotions. Rather, it's about the direction of our pursuit. Are we, like David, continually seeking after God's heart, even in our failures?
The ultimate goal is nothing short of a complete heart transplant. Not a bypass, not a stent, but a total replacement of our heart with God's. This is beautifully captured in God's words about David: "I have found David, a man after my own heart. He will do everything I want him to do" (Acts 13:22).
This transformation is a process, often a painful one. It involves allowing God's word to perform spiritual surgery on us. As Hebrews 4:12 reminds us, "For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart."
But here's the good news: God is patient with us in this process. He looks for hearts that are seeking Him, even when we stumble. He enables us to believe, to receive His Holy Spirit, and to surrender to His will.
As we navigate the complexities of human emotions, including jealousy and envy, let's remember these key truths:
  1. Acknowledge your feelings honestly before God.
  2. Keep pursuing God, even when it's uncomfortable.
  3. Allow the Holy Spirit to transform your heart, piece by piece.
  4. Trust in God's timing and ways, even when they don't make sense to you.
  5. Seek support from your faith community; you're not meant to journey alone.
In the end, the goal isn't to never feel jealous or envious. It's to allow these feelings to drive us closer to God, to seek His heart above all else. It's a lifelong journey of transformation, where we continually pray, "Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me" (Psalm 51:10).
As you reflect on areas of jealousy or envy in your own life, remember that God's grace is sufficient. He's not looking for perfection, but for hearts that are continuously turning towards Him. In every struggle, every sleepless night, every moment of wrestling with difficult emotions, God is there, ready to replace our hearts with His own.
Will you accept the challenge to pursue God's heart today, no matter where you find yourself on the journey?